How you introduce others matters!
In this episode, we'll talk about how you can take your introductions to the next level. (This is an easy way to stand out and be likable.)
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Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations.
(You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!)
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In this episode of the podcast, I talk about the difference between goals and systems.
Goals are great, but they keep you in a constant state of failure.
If you've always been a "goal person" then you need to check out this episode like yesterday.
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Does being really really ridiculously good looking = better people skills?
The answer might surprise you.
(Hint: Focus on what you can control, and you can control a lot)
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"Be yourself!"
"Be confident!"
These are things that you'll hear a lot as you improve your people skills. Should you follow this advice? What does "Be yourself!" even mean?!
I explain more in this episode.
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A LOT can happen in 10 years. In this episode, I'll walk you through an exercise by Debbie Millman that will help you get clear on what your life could look like in 10 years.
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We all have a lot of things we WANT to do, but wanting doesn’t mean much without deciding to take action.
Learn the difference between wanting and deciding and take action to improve.
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It can be tough trying to stay social during quarantine. Here are a couple of tips to help you stay social and improve your people skills!
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I'm trying a new format with this episode. (First in a series) You'll learn a people skills tip in about 10 minutes or less. Let me know what you think!
This is a borderline superpower that will help you be your best socially. It took me years to learn this, and you'll learn it in about 8 minutes.
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How can we craft a powerful message?
A message that says everything we need to say in a neat package?
A message that can inspire everyone from your small team at work, to tens of thousands when you're behind the camera or mic?
On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, my friend Nicole Schwegman (@bffwiththechef on IG) is going to walk us through crafting a powerful, clear message.
Think of this episode as media training 101.
"But Jeff, I'm not media facing in my company, should I listen to this episode?"
YES!
Many of Nicole's tips will absolutely help if you're sitting down with media. (TV, Radio, Podcasts, etc.) But the lessons here are 100% applicable to you if you've ever:
-Sat down for a job interview.
-Had to answer tough questions asked by a boss.
-Lead a team of any size.
More about Nicole:
Nicole Schwegman is a public affairs officer in the U.S. military. She’s served in the Navy for nearly 16 years where she’s had the opportunity to help media train some of American’s most senior military leaders.
She is also a home chef, food enthusiast and the host of BFF with the Chef, the podcast that aims to make home cooks better in the kitchen by sharing cheffy insights from each week's culinary guest.
Disclaimer for this show: Nicole's opinions expressed in this episode are her own, they do not reflect the views or opinions of the U.S. military.
Check out Nicole's podcast BFF with the Chef here
Full show notes and links are here
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On this episode of BMC Radio, the podcast where I help you supercharge your charisma and people skills I have my friend Paul Sanders (@PaulSandersSCP) from Get The Friends You Want.
Paul Sanders is a friendship & social skills coach, and author of the "Get The Friends You Want" book. He helps people overcome social hesitation, master conversation and social skills, make friends and build a social circle.
In an age where connection seems to be tipping more thumb than face, I think honing your friendship skills is only getting more important, especially if you're working remote, or starting a business and don't have the traditional 9-5 office culture to fall back on.
In this conversation, we talk about how to build a friendship circle, how to easily connect and build rapport with many different types of people, books on social dynamics, and much more.
Highlights:
-11:45 - Paul’s advice for building a friendship circle.
-25:00 - The compound effect of stacking different people skills.
-28:09 - Acquire new knowledge and culture so that you’ll be able to connect with many different types of people
As always, show notes are available on the blog.
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NEXT STEP:
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AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Rob Riker (@robertgriker) from The Social Winner.
Over the last few months, I've seen a lot of questions about making friends...
This podcast will answer all these questions and more. If you've every wanted a solid strategy around making new friends and connections, this podcast episode is for you. After listening, you'll be able to make new friends on command.
Rob has been featured in Business Insider, Lifehack, The Friend Formula, and Tiny Buddha.
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Free gift for BMC readers:
Get Rob's free 8 lesson course on how to make new friends this month here.
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Highlights:
19:56 - How to bridge the gap between acquaintances and meeting up a second time
26:15 - The crucial time to swap contact info
34:29 - Should you initiate plans with friends or wait for them to initiate plans?
NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Kyle Ingham (@DistilledMan), founder of The Distilled Man.
Kyle is awesome, he has the poise and style Don Draper and the wit and charm of Ryan Reynolds.
In this wide-ranging conversation, we tackle how to make great first impressions, how to be likable, how to build rapport, negative self-talk, giving effective feedback at work, cocktails, and much more.
Kyle has been featured in the San Francisco Examiner, Forbes, The Good Men Project, among others.
Kyle has an excellent free resource for BMC Radio listeners:
The 48 Hour Gentleman: Your One Weekend Plan For More Confidence, Poise, and Manly Know-How.
This excellent guide covers how to cook a steak, get a shirt tailored, male a Manhattan, and much more.
Full show notes and link available here: https://www.becomemorecompelling.com/blog
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I have an awesome conversation with my friend Myke Macapinlac of Social Confidence Mastery. (@mykemacapinlac on Twitter and Instagram)
Myke is a really interesting guy, he was born in Asia, move to the Middle East, then landed in Canada at age 16 while not being able to speak English.
He had to start from scratch with people skills. The customs of places he'd lived his entire life were suddenly reversed in a western country.
If you've wanted to level up your social confidence, make better first impressions, or network authentically at a conference this episode will be exactly what you need.
Myke's Free Gift For BMC Listeners:
Shy to Social: How To Approach And Talk To Anybody No Matter How Shy You Are
More about Myke:
Myke Macapinlac was a shy immigrant who used to work a boring engineering job and became a talk show host, a social dynamics specialist, and a lifestyle entrepreneur.
He now teaches shy guys to develop social confidence so they can succeed in their personal, romantic, and professional lives.
His work has been featured in the Calgary Herald, on Breakfast Television, on Shaw TV, and in the Huffington Post.
Highlights:
13:30 - How to overcome and reprogram negative self-talk.
21:00 - How to overcome the “I don’t want to be fake”self-improvement objection.
34:30 - How to leverage social media for conferences and events so that you can warm up the room before flying to the event.
As always, full show notes and links are available at Become More Compelling.
NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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Any time you're learning a new skill, it can be tempting to dive in head first and consume ALL the information. Often this leads to analysis paralysis. This is the opposite of action.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about the concept of taking action without overthinking. (Something I struggled with for years)
In this (solo) episode of BMC Radio I'll give you frameworks for:
If you're an ambitious overthinker, you'll hate this episode at first. But give it a few minutes, it will change the way you view taking action forever.
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NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dave Bowden (@IrreverentGent) founder of Irreverent Gent.
In this episode, we tackle a crucial topic:
Confidence.
What is it?
How do you get it?
How does it impact different areas of your life?
Confidence is important because it's one of those skills that isn't taught in school. Confidence is learned on the STREET.
(Or maybe just by consistently pushing past your comfort zone.)
This episode is geared towards the fellas. (Although I believe there are valuable insights for everyone) Dave has spent the last decade improving himself in the areas of people skills, fitness, and style.
He's gone from shy and reserved to authentically confident and now he helps men in their 20s and 30s do the same.
Highlights:
04:00 - One quick tactic Dave used to stop overthinking and win over a new friend at a dinner party.
12:40 - How to avoid information overload and take action on improving your people skills.
37:00 - The mindset Dave uses to overcome the hesitation of starting conversations.
47:45 - How to think about your style and avoiding the imposter syndrome that can come from changing what you wear.
Dave is the Amazon #1 best-selling author of Ready to Roar: How Shy, Quiet, Self-Doubting Guys Become Strong, Charming, Self-Confident Men and the founder of IrreverentGent.com, a blog dedicated to helping guys build confidence.
His work has been featured in The Good Men Project, Well Built Style and Active Man magazine, among others.
Show notes are available here.
NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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Between the hours of 8-5, are you typically sitting?
If you are, then you need to (stand up) and listen to this episode of Become More Compelling Radio.
Most of us intuitively know sitting is bad for us. But just how bad it really is may shock you.
My guest is Zack Arnold (@EmpireEditor) he's the founder of Optimize Yourself and this is a podcast episode that could literally add years to your life.
You're probably familiar with Zack's work if you've ever watched shows like Burn Notice, Glee, and Empire. He's an editor by trade, so he knows all about grueling 12+ hour days sitting in front of a computer.
About 10 years ago, Zack decided that he would stop treating his body like a Ford Pinto, and start treating it like a Ferrari. This journey led him to spend over $75,000 and a decade optimizing his health so that he can constantly perform at a high level in his career and produce amazing work on demand.ack
Most of our jobs require us to be creative problem solvers. Zack will teach us how to protect our creativity like it's our number one asset.
03:45: Zack’s preferred coffee: Bulletproof coffee
06:45: Zack’s journey: Learn, Experiment, Share
11:55: The slow death of being sedentary
16:55: Systems over goals
22:47: Why Zack always takes stairs (GO FAR: The Christopher Rush Story)
25:00: Think of your body like a swamp
30:00: Find your “deeper why” to trigger intrinsic motivation
32:20: Meditation
34:26: Being radically present with people
42:00: Zack’s counterintuitive approach to smartphones
44:02: Eat to feed your brain
53:00: Zack’s global text message: “You are so much closer to achieving your goals than you think you are.”
1:01:22: Learn more about Zack at Optimize Yourself
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Let's face it.
We've ALL sent a 16 paragraph email and that moment after we've hit the send button on this potentially life-changing email, we've wondered silently to ourselves:
"Should I have sent that? Was that a little too much?"
(Spoiler: YES, IT WAS TOO MUCH, NOW I WANT TO THROW MY LAPTOP LIKE A DISCUS INTO A LAKE)
I'm so selfishly excited about this episode of Become More Compelling Radio that I can barely contain myself.
My guest Talia Koren (@thetalillama) and I talk about how to reach out to influencers in a way that respects their time and makes it 10x more likely that you'll receive a response.
This is especially helpful if you want to:
The skill set of being able to reach out to people in an effective way is a force multiplier for your life. Learn it and use it.
In this episode you'll learn:
12:26 - How most people approach media outreach and what you can do instead.
24:10 - How to reach out to individual influencers.
41:22 - The structure of a good outreach email. (Subject line, body, PS)
Talia also has a free resource for BMC listeners: 3 Teardowns of standard media pitches.
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Show notes available at www.becomemorecompelling.com/podcast
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dan Chang (@friendformula) founder of The Friend Formula.
A former self-descibed shy guy, nine years ago Dan decided to start learning about social skills so that he could perform at a high level in his career.
He's gone from someone who was too shy to speak up in meetings, to giving presentations to executives.
Dan has been featured on INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Introvert Spring, and many others.
In this conversation, we discuss how to become better at small talk than 99% of people. I love Dan's advice because it's so easy to implement.
If you've ever fiddled with your phone instead of striking up a conversation with someone you've wanted to meet, this podcast is for you.
In this episode you'll learn:
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As always, show notes and links are available at Become More Compelling
NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am super excited to have the delightful Marsha Shandur (@YesYesMarsha) founder of yesyesmarsha.com.
Marsha is a phenomenal storytelling and networking coach, and the official storytelling coach at Portland's World Domination Summit. She has been featured on the BBC, Forbes, The Art of Charm and The Muse. She also has a book out: Off The Mic: The World's Best Stand-Up Comedians Get Serious About Comedy
In this conversation we talk about how to craft compelling stories, as well as how to avoid common storytelling mistakes.
If you've ever felt like you can't tell a good story, or people's eye glaze over while you're talking, in this podcast you'll learn:
• The #1 thing to focus on while telling stories. Hint: Tom Cruise (11:20)
• How to edit your stories down, but still keep the essence alive (17:30)
• How to deal with the “spotlight" of storytelling (42:15)
Marsha's free resource: Remember ANYONE'S name. (Even if you're normally terrible at it)
Jeff's free resource: Fantastic First Impresstions: The Four Steps To Stand Out, Be Memorable, And Create Fantastic First Impressions
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As always show notes and links are avalible over at the blog.
NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am joined by my friend Felicia Spahr of Instantly Irresistible.
Felicia has been featured in:
INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, Entrepreneur on Fire, Mind, Body, Green, Under 30 CEO
(and many others)
I love this conversation for so many reasons. After listening to this episode you will be able to:
• Craft an amazing introduction
• Focus on the right things during group conversations
• Create rapport during one-on-one conversations
• Know how and when to exchange contact information
Felicia is also hooking Become More Compelling Radio listeners up with a free audio program: 3 Magic Hooks to Create Instant Rapport With Anyone You Meet.
As always, show notes and links are over at the blog.
Enjoy!
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I have my friend Shawn McKibben, the founder of Simple Fellow where he helps ambitious introverts communicate (and kick ass) in an extroverted world.
Shawn has been featured in Mind, Body, Green, LifeHack, and Dumb Little Man. He has over 10 years experience teaching personal and career development.
In this conversation we talk about the power of revealing your authentic self, how superhero costumes at Comic Con can improve your confidence, and we play a really awesome improv game that you can start using today to have better conversations.
Shawn also has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers: An Introvert’s Guide to Engaging Conversation.
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Michaela Chung is the founder of Introvert Spring where she helps introverts thrive, and basically be more awesome.
Three years ago, she quit her job, sold everything that wouldn’t fit in a suitcase, and set out on a hero’s journey toward a life of greater meaning and purpose.
Since then, she's visited 12 countries on 5 continents. She's lived in Mexico, Australia, and Canada, and spent a good chunk of time in the U.S.A, Thailand and Colombia.
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In this interview we discuss preparing for the zombie apocolypse, the danger of using the word "should", traveling solo, meditation, forgivness, and finding balance while running a business.
NEXT STEP:
QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.
AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)
PRIVATE COACHING
Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.
MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:
Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.